Sunday, March 25, 2018

5 Things to Consider When Moving to the Next Phase of Life

The next phase of your life can be like a new frontier. It’s exciting and scary at the same time. Not knowing what is ahead and what it may entail, can give you pause. But, the allure of doing something different and doing new things can be very enticing.  Stepping into the proverbial “un-comfort zone” is no joke.

When a situation changes your life and you know you can’t or choose not to live the same way any longer there is hope on the horizon.  Doing the same thing, being with the same people, going to the same places, putting up with the same “stuff” just doesn’t seem to be enough any longer.

It's time for a change!
Now, there are some situations that come along to push you to even consider the fact that it’s time for a change. The last child has left the house so you got more time on your hands than you knew possible. It could be that the marriage ended. Then there’s the job you’ve had for years and now it’s gone bye-bye. Ultimately, you get a feeling in your gut. You want fulfillment. Old dreams begin to surface, reminding you of things you had suppressed or forgotten and let slip down deep.  Surprise! They never went away. They’re coming up to be considered again. 

How do I get started with this change?
1. Be aware of the feelings and emotions you are experiencing and don’t judge them to be good or bad. I have experienced not only fear, but confusion, anger, second guessing myself, delight, anxiousness, scattered thinking, joy, happiness, and freedom. Sometimes all in the same day and no telling when the emotion might appear. Don’t get stuck in them.

2. Ask yourself empowering questions. Empowering questions lead to resolutions and solutions. They empower you. Questions that begin with who, what, how. For example; what am I to learn from this situation? Who can I talk to that will give good guidance? Where can I get valuable support? Stay away from the “why” questions. They tend to lead you down a path of self-pity and they can disempower you.

3. Take Responsibility for your life. Here lies your power. Don’t beat yourself or anyone else up. Take care of yourself. See this time in your life as a blessing. Don’t give up.

4. Pay attention to everything going on in your life. Observe the old and new situations and the people that you are around. There are opportunities opening up for you and you want to be ready.

5. Take ‘guided’ action. You’re not a pot so no ‘stewing’ for you. Don’t do it alone!  This is so important. If it is a pattern of yours to “do it all on your own,” let that go. There may be many ideas, beliefs, behaviors, and ‘yes,’ people you’re going to have to let go of to move into the next phase and not end up in the same spot. Ask for support, join a mastermind group of like-minded people, or get a coach, probably not friends or family.

Embrace this ‘new frontier’ of possibilities. This is your time. You deserve to be happy and feel free. You are powerful. Congratulations!
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